{"id":4351,"date":"2017-03-13T06:20:58","date_gmt":"2017-03-13T10:20:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/?p=4351"},"modified":"2017-03-09T15:29:56","modified_gmt":"2017-03-09T20:29:56","slug":"performance-anxiety-in-begin-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/performance-anxiety-in-begin-again\/","title":{"rendered":"Performance Anxiety in \u201cBegin Again\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>kINKED is going to be available tomorrow. Before it comes out we wanted to give you a chance to hear directly from some of the contributors.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4331\" src=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs-300x229.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"149\" height=\"114\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs-300x229.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs-150x115.jpg 150w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs.jpg 317w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 149px) 100vw, 149px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Guest Post&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\">Performance Anxiety in \u201cBegin Again\u201d<\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">By Tiffany Michelle Brown<\/p>\n<p>I dreaded writing <em>the<\/em> sex scene in \u201cBegin Again.\u201d I had no problem writing foreplay or the flirtations between my two main characters, Melissa and Callum, an art professor and a tattoo artist who unlock a lot more than ink when Melissa gets her first tattoo. But when it came to the literal and figurative climax, well, I got a little shaky (and not in a good way).<\/p>\n<p>This particular moment in \u201cBegin Again\u201d is where all is revealed, where everything changes. It\u2019s the story\u2019s turning point. Needless to say, it\u2019s pretty important. And I was absolutely terrified I\u2019d sit down to write it and all those clich\u00e9 phrases\u2014you know the kind, the completely unsexy expressions in erotica that make you cringe or roll your eyes\u2014would come pouring forth from my fingers. An unstoppable wave of heaving bosoms and engorged penises. Oh God.<\/p>\n<p>After days of high word counts and effortless writing sessions, I was stuck. My lovers were waiting for me, all hot and bothered, but I wasn\u2019t ready to join the party. And the submission deadline for <em>kINKED<\/em> loomed over me like threatening rainclouds. Plagued by self-doubt, I started to wonder if I\u2019d be able to finish the story in time.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHow\u2019s the writing going?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>My fianc\u00e9 and I had just finished eating tacos at a Mexican food stand and were strolling along the road in Old Town San Diego. I sighed and confided in him. I told him about how I was getting hung up on this one scene, a sexy scene.<\/p>\n<p>His lips curled up into a smirk. And he promptly began quoting lines from <em>10 Things I Hate About You<\/em>. He leaned over and whispered, \u201cTumescent.\u201d Then, comments about bratwursts and quivering members. I laughed until I turned red and my stomach was sore. As we continued to stroll, our fingers intertwined, I felt a little better.<\/p>\n<p>When we got home, I had this sudden urge to flip open my laptop. Half an hour later, I\u2019d written the climax to \u201cBegin Again.\u201d And there wasn\u2019t a \u201cthrobbing manhood\u201d in sight. Whoo hoo!<\/p>\n<p>Later that week, when I\u2019d finished the story and submitted it to Pen and Kink, it dawned on me. That particular sex scene had stumped me because I\u2019d given it too much power. I\u2019d taken it far too seriously. I\u2019d forgotten that sex is supposed to be fun and messy\u2014in real life and on paper. My fianc\u00e9 making me laugh had taken the pressure off. Really, it had been the perfect writing foreplay.<\/p>\n<p>In writing erotica, I think there\u2019s a fine line. Yes, word choice is paramount. Yes, we should avoid embarrassing clich\u00e9s. Yes, our sex scenes should be more than just porn parties; they should serve a purpose and move our stories forward. But if we take it all too seriously, if we forget that writing erotica is supposed to be <em>fun<\/em>, and if we don\u2019t have as much fun writing as our characters have between the sheets\u2014there\u2019s a good chance no one\u2019s going to get off.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;HR 30%&#8221; global_module=&#8221;3593&#8243; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221;]<\/p>\n<hr width=\"30%\" \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Bio&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-4352\" src=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Author-photo_Pen-and-Kink-2-200x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"145\" height=\"218\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Author-photo_Pen-and-Kink-2-200x300.jpg 200w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Author-photo_Pen-and-Kink-2-100x150.jpg 100w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Author-photo_Pen-and-Kink-2.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 145px) 100vw, 145px\" \/>Tiffany Michelle Brown is a writer, Aikidoka, indoor rock climber, and whisky enthusiast with degrees in English and Creative Writing from the University of Arizona. Her writing has been featured by Electric Spec, Under the Gum Tree, Romance Magazine, and Shooter Literary Magazine. Tiffany lives in San Diego with her ninja fianc\u00e9 and two fur balls, Biscuit and Zen. Follow her adventures at tiffanymichellebrown.wordpress.com.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;Row&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;HR 30%&#8221; global_module=&#8221;3593&#8243; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221;]<\/p>\n<hr width=\"30%\" \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">Today is the final day to pre-order\u00a0kINKED at the discounted price of $0.99! Tomorrow, release day, the price goes up!<\/h3>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;Row&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;kINKED Buy Links&#8221; global_module=&#8221;4280&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Available\u00a0March 14th &#8212; Pre-order now<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Amazon (<a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2klIfgC\">US<\/a>) (<a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2kb0Auw\">CA<\/a>) (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/dp\/B01MZ4UNRZ\">UK<\/a>)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Available soon on Kindle Unlimited<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Or <a href=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/books\/anthologies\/kinked\/\">go here now<\/a> to read more.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243;][et_pb_image admin_label=&#8221;kINKED Cover&#8221; global_module=&#8221;4279&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; src=&#8221;http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/kINKED200x300.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;kINKED&#8221; title_text=&#8221;kINKED&#8221; show_in_lightbox=&#8221;off&#8221; url=&#8221;http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/books\/anthologies\/kinked\/&#8221; url_new_window=&#8221;off&#8221; use_overlay=&#8221;off&#8221; animation=&#8221;off&#8221; sticky=&#8221;off&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; force_fullwidth=&#8221;off&#8221; always_center_on_mobile=&#8221;on&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;] [\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>kINKED is going to be available tomorrow. 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