{"id":4323,"date":"2017-03-09T06:51:48","date_gmt":"2017-03-09T11:51:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/?p=4323"},"modified":"2017-03-08T17:04:41","modified_gmt":"2017-03-08T22:04:41","slug":"embracing-your-kink","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/embracing-your-kink\/","title":{"rendered":"Embracing Your Kink"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>kINKED is going to be available next week. Before it comes out we wanted to give you a chance to hear directly from some of the contributors.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4331\" src=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs-300x229.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"149\" height=\"114\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs-300x229.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs-150x115.jpg 150w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/cuffs.jpg 317w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 149px) 100vw, 149px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Guest Post&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\">\u201cEmbracing Your Kink\u201d<\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">By Sara Dobie Bauer<\/p>\n<p>The characters in <em>kINKED<\/em> all have one thing in common: Tattoos. In my story, \u201cPainted Red,\u201d posh Yale boy Ben has successfully hidden his ink kink for most of his life until he meets bad girl Angie\u2014who\u2019s been hiding something of her own. (Namely, her heart.)<\/p>\n<p>In \u201cPainted Red,\u201d if my characters had been honest about their closet skeletons, all the obstacles to their love would have been removed. In this case, fiction resembles life. Face it: we all have kinks. We all have certain things that turn us on, but some people are embarrassed to admit it.<\/p>\n<p>Because I\u2019m a nerd, I adore BBC <em>Sherlock<\/em> fan fiction. I have a fan following, so I occasionally get messages from readers requesting certain \u201ckinks\u201d be featured in my next story. Recently, I was commissioned to write a bit of smut about Watson and Holmes in which Holmes is young and innocent and Watson has his fun. This kink is called \u201cage play.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>My fan asked I not dedicate the story to her, however, because she feared her kink made her sound like a pervert. I was quick to tell her she was no such thing. In fact, there are tons of <em>Sherlock<\/em> fan fiction readers who adore this trope. Kinky people are never alone.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you\u2019re into age play, bondage, role-playing, swinging, or cross dressing, it\u2019s important\u2014in sex and in life\u2014to accept who you are and what you want. Great sex is a huge part of happiness. Sex should be celebrated and enjoyed. If you\u2019re into missionary, that\u2019s great. If you\u2019re not but you\u2019re only having missionary, that\u2019s <em>not great<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s vital to reach a point in every relationship when you feel comfortable telling your partner what you want in the bedroom. I\u2019m not saying you have to bust out the ball gag for a one-night stand (although I\u2019m not against it). In a committed relationship, though, honesty is make or break.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s a scene in the show <em>The Magicians <\/em>in which mousy Alice admits she doesn\u2019t orgasm when she has sex with her boyfriend. He\u2019s obviously horrified to discover she\u2019s been faking it the whole time, but once she decides to tell him what she really wants (the words \u201cbite me\u201d are involved), she has her Big O moment. She owned her kink, and voila, fireworks!<\/p>\n<p>In \u201cPainted Red,\u201d it takes time for Ben and Angie to work through their hidden desires and fears of being judged. They have to get over their insecurities to find their happy ending. Just like the rest of us.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;HR 30%&#8221; global_module=&#8221;3593&#8243; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221;]<\/p>\n<hr width=\"30%\" \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Bio&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_4324\" style=\"width: 185px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4324\" class=\" wp-image-4324\" src=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Sara_Dobie_BauerBW-200x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"175\" height=\"263\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Sara_Dobie_BauerBW-200x300.jpg 200w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Sara_Dobie_BauerBW-100x150.jpg 100w, http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Sara_Dobie_BauerBW.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 175px) 100vw, 175px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-4324\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo copyright: Bill Thornhill<\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong><em>Sara Dobie Bauer<\/em><\/strong><em> is the author of \u201cPainted Red\u201d in kINKED. She is a writer, model, and mental health advocate with a creative writing degree from Ohio University. Her short story, \u201cDon\u2019t Ball the Boss,\u201d was nominated for the Pushcart Prize, inspired by her shameless crush on Benedict Cumberbatch. She lives with her hottie husband and two precious pups in Northeast Ohio, although she\u2019d really like to live in a Tim Burton film. She is a member of RWA and author of the paranormal rom-com\u00a0<\/em>Bite Somebody<em>, among other ridiculously entertaining things. For more about Sara, visit <\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/SaraDobieBauer.com\"><em>http:\/\/SaraDobieBauer.com<\/em><\/a><em>.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;HR 30%&#8221; global_module=&#8221;3593&#8243; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221;]<\/p>\n<hr width=\"30%\" \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;Row&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;kINKED Buy Links&#8221; global_module=&#8221;4280&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Available\u00a0March 14th &#8212; Pre-order now<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Amazon (<a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2klIfgC\">US<\/a>) (<a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2kb0Auw\">CA<\/a>) (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/dp\/B01MZ4UNRZ\">UK<\/a>)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Available soon on Kindle Unlimited<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">Or <a href=\"http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/books\/anthologies\/kinked\/\">go here now<\/a> to read more.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243;][et_pb_image admin_label=&#8221;kINKED Cover&#8221; global_module=&#8221;4279&#8243; saved_tabs=&#8221;all&#8221; src=&#8221;http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/kINKED200x300.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;kINKED&#8221; title_text=&#8221;kINKED&#8221; show_in_lightbox=&#8221;off&#8221; url=&#8221;http:\/\/www.penandkinkpub.com\/home\/books\/anthologies\/kinked\/&#8221; url_new_window=&#8221;off&#8221; use_overlay=&#8221;off&#8221; animation=&#8221;off&#8221; sticky=&#8221;off&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; force_fullwidth=&#8221;off&#8221; always_center_on_mobile=&#8221;on&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221;] [\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>kINKED is going to be available next week. 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